|Who civilized who exactly?|
This is a question I would like to propose to Dr Jordan B Peterson.
First off, I would like to start off by saying that I am a huge admirer of Dr Peterson. I think he really is 'therapizing' the whole world at this point, or at least the internet and boy did we need it... :D
In humans, men form many dominance hierarchies, the men fight amongst each other and some rise to the top, the women choose their mate by peeling off the top of the dominance hierarchy in men. This is the characteristic difference between the female of the human species and females of other primates. The female chimps show no preference when in heat, they will mate with anybody irrespective of their position in the hierarchy. Which means a low-status chimp get to have the same mating preference as that of a high-status chimp. However, the larger alpha chimp chases away the smaller beta chimps so that they don't get to procreate with the females.
We all have heard him say that human women civilized men, because of female preferential mating practice a.k.a. hypergamy, men were forced to become 'awake' and pushed to the edge of developing hierarchical structures and behaviours that were best for survival across multiple time frames. As opposed to other primate male behaviours that focus on the more immediate gratification aspects of existence and who cannot project into the future to see what needs to be done in order to maintain order and their status in the community.
Well, I don't know about that. In fact, in all mammals, the females form harems and reproduce with only a few males. Hypergamy exists everywhere in the animal kingdom but they all still remain dumb animals. I believe the reason why we are so successful as a species has little to do with female hypergamy.
One can make an argument that over millions of years we kept limiting and 'controlling' female sexual behaviour until it was burnt into our genetics. The minimal promiscuous behaviour of women that arose and the absence of intensity of the 'heat' period might just be a forced genetic survival strategy. If Genghis Khan caught one of his men sleeping with any of his thousand wives, they both would be dead. In fact, most religions prescribe very strict punishments for infidelity. And we have been doing this since we were monkeys.
So it might not be that obvious who 'civilized' whom. At the least, we urged each other to do things that we saw would be the most effective survival/living strategies for both.
In my opinion, I think we just started eating better and got smarter.